Are you one of the lucky ones? Do you finally have all that you’ve ever wanted? We can arrive at this pinnacle and instead of feeling satisfied, we feel struck with a powerful sense of panic. There is a nagging sense that something–something quite important–is lacking, missing or no longer in existence.
The goal has been reached and with that; you have no idea what in the world to do with yourself next.
Despite having ‘the house and the car of your wildest dreams’ (or any other big achievement), you are still dissatisfied with your lot in life.
That, my dear, is the human condition.
We have deep desires that keep us going. After they have materialised, we feel that something significant is amiss. At this stage, the appropriate response would be to reevaluate what we wished for.
Was it in alignment with our highest desires? If the answer is yes, then, great. If it was just a temporal desire we satisfied, the likelihood is that our achievement will perish.
It is easy to lose sight of the fact that our happy emotions generally do not last. They may well be beautiful in the moment. But after that, we have to accept the fact that we are not yet dead and therefore everything is not over. A rebalancing is in order.
There are new wishes to be had and new wishes to granted.
Different people have different definitions of success and happiness at different stages of their lives. If we start to feel that our dream come true feels like a nightmare, it is usually an indication that we did obtain what we wanted; but lost it later.
We have no choice but to accept that our dream was temporary and that whatever allowed us to momentarily create it has also dissipated that very same dream.
When this happens, we can be filled with sorrow, suffering and harbour deep feelings of worthlessness. If this relates to our financial goals, there is a sense that the money we invested did not bear fruit. The outcome was not what we anticipated.
Part of the reason why this happens is because we’ve not understood the process well enough. Are we expecting everything to come too fast? Are we actually watching over and taking care of our investment to see that things have not gone haywire? Or are we allowing ourselves to besieged by fear when in actuality things are just in a temporary holding pattern?
There is usually a period of rebalancing that takes place before a true new beginning. It is a natural process. If we allow the new to be born, that’s exactly what will happen.
The new will be nothing like the old.
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