Twinn Swan

When the Three of Swords appears, it usually means that you should prepare yourself. There is someone in your midst who does not like losing and yet this person is destined to lose. Has anyone ever told you ‘NO’? How did you deal or react to it?

If you are anything like me, you will either find yourself a new opportunity or you will try again later. The best way to deal with a problem, especially when we’re unsure of what to do is not to say ‘YES’ or ‘NO’, but rather, to say, ‘NOT NOW’. This leaves the door open for negotiations at a later date. But does it? Isn’t ‘Not Now’ just a ‘No’ in disguise?

We all know when we’re on the receiving end of some kind of corporate speech or PR spin. Something has been said, something that is politically correct. At the same time, we know what the other person really meant is something else altogether. The person who gets the ‘NOT NOW’ answer knows that this answer will probably not change to a YES, even in the future. Who in the world knows when this ‘NOT NOW’ will become a YES? Not me, that’s for sure.

A decision of some sort has already been made. Maybe, perhaps it may change. But then again, things may not change. After all, who knows when ‘my time’ will come anyway? Might as well move on. After all, they are plenty of fish in the sea…

WRONG CONCLUSION

When the Three of Swords appears, it tells us that the conclusions that we have reached are not the right ones. We are finding fault in others and not seeing our own faults. We may even think that someone else is to blame for the problem that we are having. On the other hand, we may blame ourselves when in actuality the guilty party is someone else.

Try not to be too quick to anger or jump to false conclusions. Your information and knowledge is incomplete. When more is revealed to you, you may be glad that the answer you have is ‘NOT NOW’. At the same time, however, postponement is a dangerous undertaking for who knows what awaits if we do not avail of the opportunities that are presented to us? If we fail to seize the opportunity when it arises, it may well not be there later on even if we’ve had a change of heart.

One of the reasons why we disagree with others is because we have a different point of view. Instead of imposing your view on another person–and quite possibly losing the relationship in the process–try to listen so that you can reconcile what they are trying to tell you with what you know. There is certainly no point in imposing one’s own view on others. Others may well have different experiences to you and therefore may reach different conclusions to you.

Three of Swords reminds us that saying the wrong thing at the wrong time can cost us. We can end up making an enemy of someone who might have been a worthwhile friend.

THE SORE LOSER

The Three of Swords does, in most situations, herald the presence of a person who will not admit defeat, even if they have lost. It is their ego that gets in the way. They are fighting a losing battle and for some reason or another, they are simply unable to stop. They keep trying to impose their view on others, when the truth is, it is their very need to impose their view on others which is leading to a loss.

Listening, truly listening, is something that few people do. Many people become extremely accustomed to lecturing others. They have no idea what the listeners think because they have never asked. The challenge here, especially if you don’t want to directly confront the person who is speaking, is to leave the conflict behind altogether.

In the middle of these two spectrums is the person who will do neither. They are just coming along for the ride. They are choosing to be neutral when they know that they actually do have a view on these matters. They are choosing not to have a view because in these circumstances, it is clear that neither parties are right.

The Three of Swords reminds us that we shouldn’t win at the expense of someone else for if we do, one day we will be forced to lose.