If it was up to you – what would you pick? The happy ending or the fall from grace? Most people would choose the happy ending. But are we prepared and willing to do the work to get us there? Let’s say we are. Ok – so now let’s get rid of everything that’s built on shaky ground.
Err… SAY WHAT? Most people aren’t prepared or willing to do that.
When most people think of the Tower card in the tarot deck, they think of the scary one that’s reminiscent of the biblical Tower of Babel. You know – the one that came crashing down. Many tarot readers (and clients) consider it the scariest card in the deck.
But we humans should know better. Anything built on a lousy foundation is bound to fall apart. It is only a matter of time. I know lots of people who are in terrible relationships, dead end jobs, and live in cities they hate. They refuse to walk away because they’re scared of losing the illusion they’ve built up. Uncertainty scares humans more than anything else. Hey – no judgement. I’ve been guilty of this myself.
Before I came to Japan, I had built up a whole life I never actually wanted. It was a life that seemed great to most of my friends – but actually living it was a slow death. It didn’t surprise me when things fell apart – but it still hurt. I had invested a lot into an illusion hoping that one day it would be concrete. I should have known better. My foundation was made of clay.
In Ethan Michael Carter’s post The Kingdom Within You, he talks about the “three defensive towers that keep your kingdom safe from external threats. One of these towers is called ‘Mental,’ the other ‘Physical,’ and last one ‘Spirit.’”
We live in a world where people generally privilege the physical, tangible and measurable over the emotional and spiritual – and vice versa. I personally don’t believe taking either path to an extreme is healthy. We all need to earn a living in this world so we can have shelter and nutritious food to sustain ourselves on a physical level. But money alone is not enough. I know plenty of rich and miserable people. They feel like something is missing in their life. Their emotional and spiritual lives are like a desert with no oasis in sight. And I know others – who consider themselves enlightened beings who somehow can’t figure out that they can’t live on a castle on a cloud.
There’s a beautiful tarot card that doesn’t get as much attention as the Tower even though it has one – and a wreath and happy people too. This card is the Four of Wands.
Despite the bad reputation that the number 4 has in many East Asian cultures; in numerology the number 4 represents strength, stability and completion. The four elements. The four seasons. The four suits of the tarot deck.
If we want to build this tower, we first need to get rid of the lousy one that was built on clay. Don’t worry too much about the fall from grace. The only place to go after that is up. Get your foundation sorted – and then slowly build what you want. Balance the needs of your body with your heart and soul. It’s the only way to arrive at that elusive sense of bliss. No more castles in the clouds. It’s time to grow up.