When I drew this particular card in a tarot reading today – I couldn’t help but grimace. I know this emotion all too well. The wallowing. The self-pity. The why-did-it-happen-to-me. The it-was-supposed-to-be-good-but… The what-went-wrong and what-could-I-have-done. And all that damned emotional dwelling that people do when they just can’t bloody move on from their pain. That horrible feeling of regret. That I shoulda woulda coulda stuff of pop songs.
We’ve all been guilty of this at some point. Hell – even chapters in our political history reflect long-lived tales of grievances passed down generation after generation.
But at some point you have to realise that no matter what you feel, you need to just move on. No point reliving past hurts that were relegated to the history books a long time ago. Whilst grieving is important and you do need to take time out to do it – beating a dead horse is not going to get you anywhere.
If you don’t believe me, just take a look at this guy.
He’s staring at the three cups that have been spilled. He’s so busy wallowing and wrapped up in self-pity that he can’t see the two cups behind him. He can’t see that there’s a bridge in the distance. He can cross that river. Despite his desolation, there is so much hope, faith and happiness that life wants to offer him.
Unfortunately, he just keeps looking at those spilled cups. OH DEAR LORD WILL SOMEONE KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO THIS GUY?!?!?!!!
For those of you who’ve been following this blog, you know that the Suit of Wands is my favourite suit in the tarot deck. Whilst I personally think the Suit of Swords is the harshest, it is the Suit of Cups that I find most confronting. Just one glance at any card from the Suit of Cups and a whole flood of emotions from God knows when come back to me super quickly.
Ruled by the astrological element of water – the Suit of Cups primary relates to the realm of human emotion. Yes – I’m an emotional, topsy turvy often irrational Pisces woman. I leave people befuddled by my ever-changing extreme moods which can go from up to down in a span of ten minutes.
It’s a problem I’ve had since childhood. You’ll get used to it. I know I did.
But now that I’m older, I accept that sometimes in life things hurt. They hurt really really bad. The pain can linger for months, even years. But you have suffered enough. Accept the past. It gave you experiences to grow and mature. Accept that there are some lessons that only bitter experiences can teach you. And then it’s time to let go, be open and take risks again. No point lingering on those bittersweet memories.
If someone has broken your heart, know that you will fall in love again. If someone has let you down, know that not everyone will do that. Each time someone disappoints you, you learn to see through the illusion so you’ll be better prepared for the real thing when it comes around.
Let go of what could have been, what was, and what isn’t. Pick yourself up. The present and future are waiting for you.
Walk away from your own sadness. You can do it.